TOP 5 THINGS MEN LOSE WHEN THEY COMMIT

First things first, we are not advocating lack of commitment in men here, we are simply having a man to man talk. So, let me be very clear. While long lasting relationships is a great idea, there are certain things a man definitely will lose when he commits to a woman. You’ll get your share of happiness- agreed, but there will be a lot of risks as well after you take the leap. Get it all figured out before as we tell you 5 things that men are most likely to lose after they are committed to their partner.cp.jpg

1) Your Control

This one is probably the reason why most men are not willing to commit in the first place. Perhaps you can blame the society or your family who instill fear about how a woman will come around to ‘control you.’ That said it’s not entirely untrue. From your weekend plans to vacation plans to the clothes you wear or the hairstyle you sport, a lot about how you look and where you go will now depend on what she decides.

2) Female Friends

There is no denying the fact that changes do occur in your friendships, especially female friendships when you get a girlfriend. You won’t be able to spend as much time with them, definitely not alone, as she’ll always be accompanying you. Now there may be an isolated case or two where you can keep your friendship with other women as is, but those are few and far between.

3) Your Personal Space

Generally commitment comes along with spending maximum time together, sometimes it means living together entirely as well, which of course can drastically reduce your privacy. Soon you’ll find your house in order, which you’re not used to, feminine products in the bathroom, utensils in the kitchen et al. Moreover, be ready to be bossed around – there will be a list of things that you wouldn’t’ be allowed to do. So, you might as well kiss your privacy goodbye.

4) Your Lack Of Accountability

Before commitment your actions always went unnoticed. You could do anything not having to think about what the other person feels. After commitment, you’ll have a new set of feelings which you’d have to consider always before you do anything. So, that adrenaline filled camping trips with your guys or the X-box time with your buddies during the weekends will now be like a distant dream.

5) Your Casual Fun

Casual flirting is the first thing that has to be given up when you come in a serious relationship. When it comes to commitment there are boundaries for interaction with other women. Flirting has to be measured and contained before it turns to anything scandalous; unless you want to deal with crying and broken teeth.

Getting Her To Initiate Sex

o, you took The Player’s tips and manage to get a girl. Good. Now it’s time for some love (read sex). However, if you thought the Game is over, you’re very wrong my friend – getting your woman to initiate sex is a Game for senior players.

I can safely assume a lot of you have never had ‘great sex’. Only true Players can ever achieve that. Put yourself in The Player’s shoes for a second and imagine what it feels like to be able to say that only you have had great sex. Now I want you to imagine something else. Imagine what it would be like to have sex with a woman who wants it more than you do. Think about that for a second.

This is a rarity for the simple reason, because we want it more. Men love sex in a way women never will, and that’s why, always, sooner or later, it’s the man practically (or literally) lands up begging for it, even in a relationship. Right? I mean, that’s what conventional wisdom has come up with, right? And an opinion thousands of years in the making has to have the truth behind it. We all know that.

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Wrong. So wrong. I’m ready to jump through the screen and throttle whoever came up with this brilliant idea. This is one of the greatest fallacies in all of life.

Orgasms: Men vs. Women

Men have one basic kind of orgasm. One.

It can vary in intensity, sure, and sometimes it’ll even be stimulated by something other than direct contact, but it’s really just variations on a theme. That’s just how we’re built.

For a woman, the closest thing to our one orgasm is a clitoral one. But here’s the thing: women have two or more kinds, arguably three. In addition to the clitoral, they also have the G-spot, the V-spot (deep in the vagina) and the vaginal, if you argue that isn’t related.

All those orgasms produce different feelings – feelings that men can imagine, but we can never truly know. And if a woman winds up having two or more kinds of orgasms simultaneously, watch out. During the height of perfect intimacy we can get a vicarious taste of this (practice the art of tantric sex for this) – but 999 out of 1000 male lives will never come close to approaching the levels of feeling that women can get out of sex. We’re just not built that way.

Almost makes you jealous, doesn’t it? Don’t worry, quite a few women never really explore this, and if you can learn how to help a woman along, you’ll never be alone again. But that’s a topic for another article.

Wait a sec, you think, this is supposed isn’t this supposed to be an article about relationships? Why does it only seem to be about sex?

Ah my brothers, this has EVERYTHING to do with relationships. I just wanted to point out, first of all, that men do not have to want sex more than women. They usually don’t. Women are simply more subtle, and also more finicky (blame evolution).

Arousal: Men vs. Woman

A woman can’t be turned on just like that. I show you a naked picture of angelina jolie, within seconds you could be pounding nails with your tool. Show a woman a naked brad pitt, and you aren’t likely to get the same reaction.

While men tend to be visual, women tend to be cognitive. She needs her mind turned on before she gets in the mood.
Trust me, she wants to be in the mood, almost certainly more than you. But just because you get hard at the sight of her nightie, that doesn’t mean she’s ready.

And here’s the problem. Men get aroused so much faster than women that oftentimes they move too quickly. The woman wants sex, but not yet, and the guy is already moving fast into foreplay or, worse penetration.

For the woman, that’s just no fun. That’s not the lovemaking she wants. If you move too quick she may join in for you, but not for her. And this starts to become a pattern. Pretty soon she’s looking at sex as a chore, a way to keep you happy, but all the while she’s not being made happy.

This is when those pesky headaches start to appear.

This is when the man starts getting grabby, pawing, begging, putting himself in the position of weakness. Sex becomes less frequent, and more of a bothersome task for her. This leads to the man begging all the more, leading to the woman wanting it less and less, until it basically disappears.

The man becomes distraught, more pathetic in his attempts, and suddenly your abstinent. Or dumped. Or – worst? – cheated on. So how do you keep from letting this happen? It’s simple. Maybe hard in practice, but simple in theory.

Attack The Brain Not The Body

Don’t paw, don’t coyly place her hand on your crotch, don’t plead for a little sweetness. Never ever beg. Even if you get it that way – less and less as time goes by – the sex won’t be the kind of passionate embrace it should be.

You’ve got to learn to lean back, especially when you’ve been in a relationship for awhile. You need to turn her on mentally, and let her show you when she’s ready.

Don’t worry about her knowing about you. We have a handy flag raised whenever we’re in the mood. A woman, though, needs to be turned on more patiently, much more slowly. When she’s ready to move up a level, she’ll certainly let you know, most likely in a physical way.

If you can give her a little then draw back – tease her a bit – then you’ll really start to see something. You want her pawing you. She should be begging you for sex – in a playful way, of course, but nonetheless, you should be the one holding out longer. This will help ensure that she really is in the mood by the time you get down to it – which in turn leads to amazing sex.

Retain the power and the control in the bedroom. Feel free to play around with this. Some of the most explosive sex i’ve ever had was when i’d built a woman up to great heights, and then pushed her away. A woman can get nearly violent in her passion after something like that, if she’s been built up correctly.

This sort of sexual tension works almost all the time. Of course sometimes, for whatever reason, it won’t. The key then is:

Suck It Up

Go a night without. Don’t pout. Don’t ever beg. Don’t even cajole. You might get something that moment, but you’re damaging your sex life in the long run. You are losing your attractiveness.

Remember, she’s the one who is going to be experiencing depths of feeling outside the ordinary experience of men the world over. If she knows that you can provide those feelings and you don’t do anything to screw up your sexual appeal, she will come to you.

You know, people do get real headaches sometimes. A lot of bouncing isn’t pleasant. Don’t plant unpleasant experiences in her head when she thinks of you and sex. You want them all to be great.

Now no one can be on all the time, but even if every single experience isn’t fantastic, most of them should be, and there should be no negative ones.And if she is, let her show you. Your job is to get her in the mood. After that, making love to her is something you choose to do for her.

So think about your life and think about the times you have been trying to get laid – TRYING to get laid. Listen to the way you are wording it. “I am TRYING to get laid tonight.” If you want to get laid, you need to be cool about it. If you are feeling so horny that the very sight of her cleavage makes you want to rip off her clothes, then snap a load.

Jerk off and release the testosterone before you go out on a date or invite her to your place. Do not bring all the sexual energy into the game. The cooler you are, the more suave you are and the more turned on she is going to be by you. By doing this, you start building some incredible chemistry and more often than not, the girl herself will initiate the sex.

Wild Sex versus Mild Sex

Sex has long transcended its mere function to procreate.

It is now regarded as the steamy engagement of passion and physical desires. As more couples open up their sexual prowess to wider realms of experimentation, the issue of favouring one technique over the other is often questioned. With this article in hand, those questions will now be answered.

Wild Sex Redefined

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Wild sex is all about the passionate thrusts, audible pleasures and chemistry so sizzling, that it threatens to set the air on fire. Couples are increasingly relying on vigour and aggression, to shake up their lovemaking skills. The mere thrill of the act is what makes this approach so appealing. Kinky is the new mantra, and taboo topics like mutual masturbation, prolonged foreplay, BDSM and sex toys are fast making their way into the bedroom. Wild sex has been wrongly associated with one night stands, the fact remains that it has been used to achieve newer heights of pleasure by couples in committed relationships as well. Although spontaneous attempts are more popular in achieving sexual pleasure, at times, planning to be down and dirty has its magic too. Penetrate her from behind, starting with a slow pace and eventually building up the motion. If she permits, grab her hair. The depraved treatment involved in wild sex is enough to make sex electrifying.

Do you want to experiment with BDSM? Handcuff your woman to the bed and play around with light whipping, ass spanking and genital probing. Then when she’s begging for more, take her forcefully and let your bodies do the rest. Build a natural rhythm and stop thrusting only when you need to tease her. Wild sex need not be restricted to the bedroom alone. With one’s creative imagination and unbridled passion, sexual games can be played anywhere. Is your girl a thrill seeker? Then having sex in public places will give the most intense pleasure. The degree of ‘wildness’ is dependent on the couple’s mood and the intensity of desire. Often performed insensitively, wild sex can offend your partner. So it is essential to make sure your partner feels comfortable about being adventurous.

Defining Mild Sex

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Mild sex is the comparatively intimate and gentler approach. This plays less on physical aggression and more on the emotional connect. Passionate kissing, slow but deep thrusts and loving eye contact, set the mood for this kind of lovemaking. This kind of sex induces feelings of intimacy and a sense of belonging. Set a romantic ambience. Light some scented candles. Kiss and let passions run high. Mild sex is a popular approach among women in committed relationships. Gentle caresses, oral sex, intense foreplay and long sexual intercourses are the main features. Bite her neck gently while thrusting slow and deep. Pin her arms down and keep them above her head. She will savour this feeling of surrender and will keep you coming for more.

At the end of the day, the intensity of one’s desire will be able to choose the right approach on its own. All you have to do is make her feel good; your bodies will take care of the rest. Have fun!

Be Better Than The Other Guy

Have you ever considered the possibility that when you meet an attractive woman, chances of her being followed by several other potential suitors is very high?

She may also have a steady boyfriend as attractive women are rarely ever single. Most men are well aware of this fact and this gets in the way of them making their moves. To get her attention you have to be different from all your competitors.

The best way of doing this is to differentiate yourself from “the pack” and get her to chase you. To be different, you have to develop yourself — inside and out — so you can offer her the unique experience of being with a man who is better than all other guys she has been with. So here are some great tips to help you create that magical experience for her.

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Believe that you deserve better

The fact is that when it comes to beautiful women most men simply refuse to believe that they actually deserve success. This in turn affects their confidence. Unless you believe, you can’t act with conviction. Confidence is something that can’t be feigned and women can sense a FAKE from a mile. So if you believe that you don’t deserve to enjoy the company of attractive women, you are actually psyching yourself to all the wrong things and sabotaging your chances.

What you can do

  • Foster the belief that any woman should thank her stars to have got her hands on a guy like you.
  • Try writing at least three reasons why you believe this is true. Keep adding something to the list everyday and watch it grow. As the number of your accomplishments increase, so will your confidence.

Work on your insecurities

To attract beautiful women you have to tide over all those deep seated insecurities that you have so lovingly nurtured during your hitherto unsuccessful dating career. Don’t try to cover them up.
Because the more you try, the more obvious they will appear to women. It’s quite like seeing a woman wearing too much makeup to cover the acne on her face. The harder she tries to conceal them the more they hit the eye.

What you can do

  • Instead of hiding your insecurities feature them till they stop bothering you. An excellent way of doing this is to use them to in your jokes when you flirt with women.
  • If you are insecure about your hair loss say something like “This is never going to work out. You just keep looking at my gorgeous head. How would you feel if I kept staring at your gorgeous legs?”

Take charge

Like every other guy, you too must have given up innumerable chances of starting a conversation with a woman you found attractive because you didn’t want to interrupt or bother her even when it seemed that she was open to being approached. You gawked at her or kept glancing at her and looked away when she caught your eye. Most men are unconsciously seeking PERMISSION to do every little thing. It’s like you haven’t yet got out of the “May I come in, ma’am” syndrome. Asking for permission has been drilled into the psyche of Indian men. So if the girls nod or give you a smile (which they often don’t), you walk towards them tentatively and mumble something to them, with a sickly smile on your face.

What to do

  • Stop asking for permission.
  • Visit places like malls and parties and start conversations with girls at random. It’s really not that difficult. A man with the freedom to take action when and where he wants is rare — and women find this kind of “bold” guy VERY attractive.

Be a Man

All women want to share their lives with a real man. So how does a woman know when she’s in the presence of one? Well, a real man knows how to stay comfortable and confident around beautiful women. In addition, he’s also very relaxed around powerful, high-status people, like his boss. He is not intimidated by competition from other men and actually welcomes them.

What to do

  • Try and work on your cool quotient. A very simple way of doing this is to develop that nothing- to lose attitude
  • Don’t get intimidated by high-profile people. Be respectful but not subservient. If there is anything that you disagree with voice your opinion. This will go a long way in helping in bringing out the man in you.
  • By incorporating all the above mentioned tips in your daily life, getting the chick of your choice will become the easiest thing in the world. As the saying goes “Change your Vision and the world will change around you.”

Avoid These Common Sexual Mistakes

What are best sexual positions that will prevent monotony from infecting my monogamy?’

Men would have kept away from the laboratory of body contortions, if they hadn’t developed the phobia that women would get bored and ultimately lose interest in sex. With the much maligned missionary becoming old and dull, a number of other radical positions are gaining favor. However, if you ask men, sex isn’t so much about the position, but your attitude. As long as you are able to avoid the attitudinal mistakes mentioned below, you’ll do just fine:

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Foreplay Faux Pas I: Imitating Porn

Inexperienced guys have often been guilty of taking notes while watching porn.  Remember guys, most positions used in porn movies are executed for the sole purpose of ‘entertainment. Don’t you dare think that your wife or girlfriend will get the best ride of her life if you make her go upside down. Such moves do nothing to maximize the pleasure of the participants, so save the acrobatics for the actors.

Any position that puts an added stress on any part of the body (both hers and yours) is a bad idea. The worst of them is the one in which she places her ankles on your shoulders. With this position, the pelvic region is arched far back and the woman is sure to feel pain in her cervix if you push too far. Additionally this position creates a different type of pressure. If you go behind the scenes of an XXX movie, you will see how the mood gets killed every time the woman has to excuse herself in the between the scene to use the rest room.

Foreplay Faux Pas II: Worrying About Your weight

Sex for a woman is a way to get really close to her man, so don’t think she’ll mind if you lean too heavily on her. The next time you’re making love to your woman, get more of your weight on her. The feeling of her man’s body pressed hard against her is quite a turn on for most women.

Of course, if you are too heavy for your woman, she might feel squashed if you treat her like a reclining armchair. However the bottom line is that a woman actually enjoys (at least) some of man’s weight on her remains unchanged.

Foreplay Faux Pas III: Being a Wimp

The last thing you should look for is excuses or lame situations to direct your woman to the bedroom. Too many guys think that women have to be asked for their permission for every little move they make in bed and play safe. Take the lead, she’ll love it a lot more if you act the alpha and are more aggressive in bed. You can be both dominating and caring at the same time. Stop worrying about straying. Believe me if there’s something she doesn’t like, she’ll let you know.

All said and done, pain might be close to pleasure but it isn’t necessarily so.