Tricks To Make Her Orgasm

She’s arching her back, moaning and groaning, and giving Meg Ryan a run for her money. You’re feeling great about yourself and loving how it’s going, but you’re not alone if these moments are sometimes accompanied by a nagging worry: What if I can’t get it right a second time? What if this is all just luck?

Well, some of it is out of your hands. Many women will tell you that an orgasm is nigh on impossible if she’s not in the right head space. If she’s distracted, worried or feeling uncomfortable, you can be the world’s greatest lover and still fail to give her real pleasure. So the first thing you need to do is relax and recognize that it’s not all about you. On the other hand, any man worth a place in bed beside a woman knows that he bears some responsibility for sexual satisfaction. For that part of the equation, read on for our for tips to make her orgasm.

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Put on musky cologne

Smell is the strongest of the five senses when it comes to sexual functioning for two reasons: First, since anything musky mimics testosterone, it’ll kick her libido into high gear. Baby powder can have a similar effect by activating her “scent print,” which links babies to procreation. Second, because smell, sex and memory centers share close quarters in the brain, the scent of arousal leaves the most lasting impression. The second she gets a whiff of your musky cologne, she’ll be transported back to the last time she smelled it on your body.

Warm up her feet

Every guy knows that when a woman hits the sack she loves to wedge her cold feet between his legs to warm up. Warm feet do more to make a woman physically comfortable than just about anything else — even more so if you want her completely naked, which is not likely to happen if she’s cold, even with the lights off. What most of you probably didn’t realize was the importance of warm feet in increasing the likelihood of her experiencing an orgasm. According to Dutch scientists from the University of Groningen, the odds are increased by 30%. Maybe leaving the socks on isn’t such a bad idea after all. If you want to try something sexier, a foot massage with a warming gel can do wonders, especially if you concentrate on the pads of her toes and the webbing in between, which are linked to her nether zones according to reflexology charts. Moreover, lips, hands, feet, and genitals get the lion’s share of brain space, where feet and genital centers are neighbors, making them share sexy information. Why else do you think women call shoe shopping “retail therapy” — especially when they’re not getting any at home and feeling bummed out? So socks or stilettos, you choose, as long as they’re keeping her tootsies warm.

Focus on her 10 o’clock and 2 o’clock

When zoning in between her legs, just as you appreciate her indulging more than just your package, she’d like you to go for more than her hood ornament. If you run your tongue around her clitoral head, concentrating on the 10 o’ clock and 2 o’clock marks on either side, and then gently slip your tongue beneath the hood, you’ll have her moaning from the intensity. While bang-on is too sensitive, those two sweet spots will make sure that she takes a licking and keeps on ticking, thanks to the bulbs hidden just beneath. The best way to pull off this maneuver is to have her straddle your face as you lay comfortably on your back. She’ll get to lean into the headboard so she can drive the action with ease, since you’ve put her in the driver’s seat. 

Kiss the right side of her spine

Touch on the right side of a woman’s spine makes her melt more so than the left side, perhaps because the left side of the brain controls her right side and it’s the logical side that can talk her into anything. Whether you’re kissing her there, stroking her or gently teasing her with a tickler, just make sure your moves are curvy. You’ll cover more mileage, not to mention get better mileage out of your touch, since it’s significantly more intense than a straight touch.    

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Time for you to take your tricks for a test drive. With all that attention, her skin will be flushed, her pupils dilated, parts of her shaking, and those she can steady, she’ll be pushing into you — until she’s done and can’t take any more, that is. Now that’s how to make her orgasm for real and, trust us, you’ll be able to tell the difference.

Men ‘preheated’ for sex but women warm up slowly

Know why most of men just rush for sex and ignore the vital art of whole-body lovemaking? Read on!

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Learning the reasons for this difference can help men become better lovers,” said a report published by the American Association of Retired Persons (AARP) – a US-based nonprofit advocacy group that helps people 50 and older improve quality of their lives.

Recent research shows that women experience libido as an urge far less compelling than that.

“A University of British Columbia survey interviewed hundreds of women who reported feeling ‘erotically neutral’ at the start of sex. Only when they started making love – and enjoyed it – did they warm up and feel actual desire,” the report added.

According to sex therapists, men become intimate to gain sex whereas women have sex to gain intimacy.

Men should try sex based on gentle, whole-body massage that eventually includes the genitals but does not fixate on them.

“The genitals are important but so is every other part of women’s bodies. Men who rush into genital sex are clueless about women,” the report quoted New York sex educator Betty Dodson as saying.

Sex Positions She Craves

You want to please your partner. I want to help you. (Well, not literally, but you get where this is going.) That’s why we surveyed over 1,100 women on which sex positions they wish you’d try more often. (Spoiler: Missionary came in dead last.) The poll consisted of 11 positions, and each participant was to select which three she fancied the most. As it turns out, the ladies want the same thing you do: more adventure!

Interested in what our respondents had to say? Check out the five positions that ranked the highest:

No. 1: Face-Off Position, 48 percent ranked this in their top three

How it benefits her: She’s in control of the depth, as well as the pace of the thrusts. (Bonus: You have killer access to her breasts. Utilize this.)


No. 2: G-Whiz, 32 percent ranked this in their top three

How it benefits her: When she raises her legs, it narrows her vagina—making it easier for you to target her G-Spot. 

No. 3: Upstanding Citizen, 31 percent ranked this in their top three

How it benefits her: It’s. So. Sexy. (Advice for you: Spread your thighs slightly, don’t lock your knees, and if you have a bad back—don’t attempt it. Nothing says “mood killer” like hurting yourself.)

No. 4: Flatiron, 31 percent ranked this in their top three

How it benefits her: It creates a snug fit. (Simply put: You feel larger to her in this position.)

No. 5: Stand and Deliver, 30 percent ranked this in their top three

How it benefits her: Bending at the waist tightens her vaginal walls and increases the intensity of the friction. (Want to take it up a notch? Reach around with your free hand and caress her clitoris.)

So there you have it, five woman-approved sex positions. Now go out there and see which one you and your partner like best!

6 Sex Mistakes You’re Making

Want to have more sex? Make it about discovery again. Bust out of your romance rut and jumpstart your sex life by breaking these six relationship routines.

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SEX IS A RACE

Break it: Explore her. Focus on her thighs and lower belly. Make a mental circle 2 inches around the outside of her vagina, and don’t cross the line while you kiss, lick, and caress, says Gloria Brame, Ph.D., author ofDifferent Loving. You’ll ignite her nerve endings and bring her close to her red zone. It makes sex about discovery, not some destination. “Goal-oriented sex isn’t sexy,” Brame says.

SAME TIME, SAME PLACE

Break it: Relive the past. Take her to the garage and reclaim the space you long ago ceded: Seduce her in the backseat of the car. It feels a little public, it’s steeped in testosterone, and there’s a throwback, high-school quality to it. Make it a quickie, which has its place in the sexual diet; having lots of sex begets more sex, because you stay connected, says Laura Berman, Ph.D., director of the Berman Center in Chicago.

PREDICTABLE FOREPLAY

Break it: Work out together. Think of it as fat-burning foreplay. It will raise her dopamine levels, easing her anxieties. “She’ll feel the sex is about her and not some random need she has to accommodate,” says Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., a professor of sociology at Washington University. Bonus: Your post-run sweat has androstadienone,  a testosterone derivative that spikes her arousal when she smells it.

LOPSIDED FIRST MOVES

Break it: Tie her hands. It’s now up to her to figure out how to remove your shirt, tie, cuff links, and pants. You’ll share a few laughs and marvel at her ingenuity. Whether you tie her up or she binds you,  the game will break your predictable, first-move habits. The bonus: “It acts as an automatic foreplay extender,” says Berman.

TV, THEN SEX

Break it: Read to her. It doesn’t have to be erotica. It’s an intimate activity that makes her focus on your voice. The deeper, the better. Low voices are a sign of high testosterone, which ups her attraction to you, according to a Scottish study. Read lying in bed with your head up, to dip an octave; it forces you to push air with your diaphragm instead of your lungs.

HABITUAL HAND HOLDING

Break it: Caress her neck. Sure, holding hands can work as an aphrodisiac: It shows her you’re devoted and proud to tell the world. But after a while, its poignancy wanes. A stepped-up PDA will deepen her connection to you, so she’ll be more willing to really give herself to you in the bedroom, says Schwartz.

 

Effective Tips to Keep Your Girl Satisfied

If you have been wondering about how to keep your girl satisfied,

constantly worrying that lately she doesn’t seem to be as excited in your company in the way she used to be earlier, you need to shake yourself and start searching for answers. For starters, understand that keeping a girl satisfied is more about the cerebral thing, i.e. emotional satisfaction, apart from the usual ingredients like making intimacy more pleasurable. You need to ensure that you arouse, satisfy and still keep her hungry for more from an intellectual and sexual perspective. The following tips might help you understand how to approach this slightly complex niche:

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Be More Attentive

Yes, most women are blabber-mouths and your girlfriend too just cannot stop yapping. You have developed a sort of mental immunity to what she talks about, usually ignoring the details and subtle hints that might be camouflaged in her verbose chatter. Try to pay more attention and pick-up such signals. She might be hinting at things missing from your relationship. Further, when you listen attentively, chances are that you will discover more things about her, including her personality traits and interests. This gives you more reasons to talk about, make your conversations inclined more towards her interests, presenting you as a seriously caring boyfriend. Most women feel flattered when their men tend to remember the smaller things and take interest in seemingly trivial pursuits.

Be Random, Unpredictable

Women like men with a bit of mystique and a few surprises. You don’t need to turn into a stuntman to satiate her appetite for being surprised. Just do the normal things in a different way. For instance, you could suggest joining yoga or swimming classes
together or taking a trip on a sport’s bike. Offer to teach her driving if she seems afraid to get behind the wheel or show-up with a totally unexpected gift for her. Invite her to a unisex salon where the two of you could get streaks of the same shade.
The idea is to kill the monotony in the relationship to ensure that you are keeping your girl satisfied. Dump emailing and sending SMS to her. Instead, try the snail mail for expressing your love.

Be More Nurturing

They say women are born with a maternal instinct and naturally tend to care more than men. This is true but this doesn’t mean that she has got to nurture you while you sit back and enjoy being taken care of—rise up to the challenge and reversing the
role for a few days. This is not about pampering her more but nurturing where you need to take care of her smallest needs and be more compassionate. For instance, is she complains of headaches, give her a gentle shoulder or head massage. Tell your
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 that you will accompany her to her next appointment with the dentist. Seek couple packages at spas and wellness centers and tell her that you are doing it since you are constantly worried about her being overworked or stressed.

Giving-in To What She Yearns For

It could be that your girlfriend is satisfied but you are limiting her freedom to the extent that she feels a bit suffocated and thus, unhappy. You need to be more adjusting here. Give her more time to spend with her friends. If this means checking upon her daily schedule a bit less frequently and not asking her whereabouts all the time, just do it. Any relationship that borders on being too restrictive doesn’t have a very long lifespan.

Never Stop Experimenting in Bed

If you two have graduated to a deep level of intimacy, it could be that sex is getting too predictable to keep your woman satisfied. You need to spice-up your love life. The best approach towards this is having a teenager-like mentality to explore what else you guys can do. For instance, watch some porn together and mark-out sexual positions you could try. You need to understand that the body’s sensitivity and the degree of arousal level achieved can decrease over a period if the same positions and spots are repeated. Try to search and enact roleplay themes that interest both of you. Sometimes, couples who have a decent degree of bedroom time, tend to lose focus of how trivial things in life too could be erotic.
This includes getting naughty at the movie hall, catching a kiss in the parking lot or groping her seductively (and secretly) in the elevator. The idea is to keep adding a new dimension to your intimacy every time it seems that things are getting a bit uninteresting for either of you. If you have been the dominant partner so far, let her take over for a few weeks in the bedroom.

Getting Her To Initiate Sex

o, you took The Player’s tips and manage to get a girl. Good. Now it’s time for some love (read sex). However, if you thought the Game is over, you’re very wrong my friend – getting your woman to initiate sex is a Game for senior players.

I can safely assume a lot of you have never had ‘great sex’. Only true Players can ever achieve that. Put yourself in The Player’s shoes for a second and imagine what it feels like to be able to say that only you have had great sex. Now I want you to imagine something else. Imagine what it would be like to have sex with a woman who wants it more than you do. Think about that for a second.

This is a rarity for the simple reason, because we want it more. Men love sex in a way women never will, and that’s why, always, sooner or later, it’s the man practically (or literally) lands up begging for it, even in a relationship. Right? I mean, that’s what conventional wisdom has come up with, right? And an opinion thousands of years in the making has to have the truth behind it. We all know that.

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Wrong. So wrong. I’m ready to jump through the screen and throttle whoever came up with this brilliant idea. This is one of the greatest fallacies in all of life.

Orgasms: Men vs. Women

Men have one basic kind of orgasm. One.

It can vary in intensity, sure, and sometimes it’ll even be stimulated by something other than direct contact, but it’s really just variations on a theme. That’s just how we’re built.

For a woman, the closest thing to our one orgasm is a clitoral one. But here’s the thing: women have two or more kinds, arguably three. In addition to the clitoral, they also have the G-spot, the V-spot (deep in the vagina) and the vaginal, if you argue that isn’t related.

All those orgasms produce different feelings – feelings that men can imagine, but we can never truly know. And if a woman winds up having two or more kinds of orgasms simultaneously, watch out. During the height of perfect intimacy we can get a vicarious taste of this (practice the art of tantric sex for this) – but 999 out of 1000 male lives will never come close to approaching the levels of feeling that women can get out of sex. We’re just not built that way.

Almost makes you jealous, doesn’t it? Don’t worry, quite a few women never really explore this, and if you can learn how to help a woman along, you’ll never be alone again. But that’s a topic for another article.

Wait a sec, you think, this is supposed isn’t this supposed to be an article about relationships? Why does it only seem to be about sex?

Ah my brothers, this has EVERYTHING to do with relationships. I just wanted to point out, first of all, that men do not have to want sex more than women. They usually don’t. Women are simply more subtle, and also more finicky (blame evolution).

Arousal: Men vs. Woman

A woman can’t be turned on just like that. I show you a naked picture of angelina jolie, within seconds you could be pounding nails with your tool. Show a woman a naked brad pitt, and you aren’t likely to get the same reaction.

While men tend to be visual, women tend to be cognitive. She needs her mind turned on before she gets in the mood.
Trust me, she wants to be in the mood, almost certainly more than you. But just because you get hard at the sight of her nightie, that doesn’t mean she’s ready.

And here’s the problem. Men get aroused so much faster than women that oftentimes they move too quickly. The woman wants sex, but not yet, and the guy is already moving fast into foreplay or, worse penetration.

For the woman, that’s just no fun. That’s not the lovemaking she wants. If you move too quick she may join in for you, but not for her. And this starts to become a pattern. Pretty soon she’s looking at sex as a chore, a way to keep you happy, but all the while she’s not being made happy.

This is when those pesky headaches start to appear.

This is when the man starts getting grabby, pawing, begging, putting himself in the position of weakness. Sex becomes less frequent, and more of a bothersome task for her. This leads to the man begging all the more, leading to the woman wanting it less and less, until it basically disappears.

The man becomes distraught, more pathetic in his attempts, and suddenly your abstinent. Or dumped. Or – worst? – cheated on. So how do you keep from letting this happen? It’s simple. Maybe hard in practice, but simple in theory.

Attack The Brain Not The Body

Don’t paw, don’t coyly place her hand on your crotch, don’t plead for a little sweetness. Never ever beg. Even if you get it that way – less and less as time goes by – the sex won’t be the kind of passionate embrace it should be.

You’ve got to learn to lean back, especially when you’ve been in a relationship for awhile. You need to turn her on mentally, and let her show you when she’s ready.

Don’t worry about her knowing about you. We have a handy flag raised whenever we’re in the mood. A woman, though, needs to be turned on more patiently, much more slowly. When she’s ready to move up a level, she’ll certainly let you know, most likely in a physical way.

If you can give her a little then draw back – tease her a bit – then you’ll really start to see something. You want her pawing you. She should be begging you for sex – in a playful way, of course, but nonetheless, you should be the one holding out longer. This will help ensure that she really is in the mood by the time you get down to it – which in turn leads to amazing sex.

Retain the power and the control in the bedroom. Feel free to play around with this. Some of the most explosive sex i’ve ever had was when i’d built a woman up to great heights, and then pushed her away. A woman can get nearly violent in her passion after something like that, if she’s been built up correctly.

This sort of sexual tension works almost all the time. Of course sometimes, for whatever reason, it won’t. The key then is:

Suck It Up

Go a night without. Don’t pout. Don’t ever beg. Don’t even cajole. You might get something that moment, but you’re damaging your sex life in the long run. You are losing your attractiveness.

Remember, she’s the one who is going to be experiencing depths of feeling outside the ordinary experience of men the world over. If she knows that you can provide those feelings and you don’t do anything to screw up your sexual appeal, she will come to you.

You know, people do get real headaches sometimes. A lot of bouncing isn’t pleasant. Don’t plant unpleasant experiences in her head when she thinks of you and sex. You want them all to be great.

Now no one can be on all the time, but even if every single experience isn’t fantastic, most of them should be, and there should be no negative ones.And if she is, let her show you. Your job is to get her in the mood. After that, making love to her is something you choose to do for her.

So think about your life and think about the times you have been trying to get laid – TRYING to get laid. Listen to the way you are wording it. “I am TRYING to get laid tonight.” If you want to get laid, you need to be cool about it. If you are feeling so horny that the very sight of her cleavage makes you want to rip off her clothes, then snap a load.

Jerk off and release the testosterone before you go out on a date or invite her to your place. Do not bring all the sexual energy into the game. The cooler you are, the more suave you are and the more turned on she is going to be by you. By doing this, you start building some incredible chemistry and more often than not, the girl herself will initiate the sex.

Wild Sex versus Mild Sex

Sex has long transcended its mere function to procreate.

It is now regarded as the steamy engagement of passion and physical desires. As more couples open up their sexual prowess to wider realms of experimentation, the issue of favouring one technique over the other is often questioned. With this article in hand, those questions will now be answered.

Wild Sex Redefined

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Wild sex is all about the passionate thrusts, audible pleasures and chemistry so sizzling, that it threatens to set the air on fire. Couples are increasingly relying on vigour and aggression, to shake up their lovemaking skills. The mere thrill of the act is what makes this approach so appealing. Kinky is the new mantra, and taboo topics like mutual masturbation, prolonged foreplay, BDSM and sex toys are fast making their way into the bedroom. Wild sex has been wrongly associated with one night stands, the fact remains that it has been used to achieve newer heights of pleasure by couples in committed relationships as well. Although spontaneous attempts are more popular in achieving sexual pleasure, at times, planning to be down and dirty has its magic too. Penetrate her from behind, starting with a slow pace and eventually building up the motion. If she permits, grab her hair. The depraved treatment involved in wild sex is enough to make sex electrifying.

Do you want to experiment with BDSM? Handcuff your woman to the bed and play around with light whipping, ass spanking and genital probing. Then when she’s begging for more, take her forcefully and let your bodies do the rest. Build a natural rhythm and stop thrusting only when you need to tease her. Wild sex need not be restricted to the bedroom alone. With one’s creative imagination and unbridled passion, sexual games can be played anywhere. Is your girl a thrill seeker? Then having sex in public places will give the most intense pleasure. The degree of ‘wildness’ is dependent on the couple’s mood and the intensity of desire. Often performed insensitively, wild sex can offend your partner. So it is essential to make sure your partner feels comfortable about being adventurous.

Defining Mild Sex

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Mild sex is the comparatively intimate and gentler approach. This plays less on physical aggression and more on the emotional connect. Passionate kissing, slow but deep thrusts and loving eye contact, set the mood for this kind of lovemaking. This kind of sex induces feelings of intimacy and a sense of belonging. Set a romantic ambience. Light some scented candles. Kiss and let passions run high. Mild sex is a popular approach among women in committed relationships. Gentle caresses, oral sex, intense foreplay and long sexual intercourses are the main features. Bite her neck gently while thrusting slow and deep. Pin her arms down and keep them above her head. She will savour this feeling of surrender and will keep you coming for more.

At the end of the day, the intensity of one’s desire will be able to choose the right approach on its own. All you have to do is make her feel good; your bodies will take care of the rest. Have fun!