Sex Positions She Craves

You want to please your partner. I want to help you. (Well, not literally, but you get where this is going.) That’s why we surveyed over 1,100 women on which sex positions they wish you’d try more often. (Spoiler: Missionary came in dead last.) The poll consisted of 11 positions, and each participant was to select which three she fancied the most. As it turns out, the ladies want the same thing you do: more adventure!

Interested in what our respondents had to say? Check out the five positions that ranked the highest:

No. 1: Face-Off Position, 48 percent ranked this in their top three

How it benefits her: She’s in control of the depth, as well as the pace of the thrusts. (Bonus: You have killer access to her breasts. Utilize this.)


No. 2: G-Whiz, 32 percent ranked this in their top three

How it benefits her: When she raises her legs, it narrows her vagina—making it easier for you to target her G-Spot. 

No. 3: Upstanding Citizen, 31 percent ranked this in their top three

How it benefits her: It’s. So. Sexy. (Advice for you: Spread your thighs slightly, don’t lock your knees, and if you have a bad back—don’t attempt it. Nothing says “mood killer” like hurting yourself.)

No. 4: Flatiron, 31 percent ranked this in their top three

How it benefits her: It creates a snug fit. (Simply put: You feel larger to her in this position.)

No. 5: Stand and Deliver, 30 percent ranked this in their top three

How it benefits her: Bending at the waist tightens her vaginal walls and increases the intensity of the friction. (Want to take it up a notch? Reach around with your free hand and caress her clitoris.)

So there you have it, five woman-approved sex positions. Now go out there and see which one you and your partner like best!

Getting Her To Initiate Sex

o, you took The Player’s tips and manage to get a girl. Good. Now it’s time for some love (read sex). However, if you thought the Game is over, you’re very wrong my friend – getting your woman to initiate sex is a Game for senior players.

I can safely assume a lot of you have never had ‘great sex’. Only true Players can ever achieve that. Put yourself in The Player’s shoes for a second and imagine what it feels like to be able to say that only you have had great sex. Now I want you to imagine something else. Imagine what it would be like to have sex with a woman who wants it more than you do. Think about that for a second.

This is a rarity for the simple reason, because we want it more. Men love sex in a way women never will, and that’s why, always, sooner or later, it’s the man practically (or literally) lands up begging for it, even in a relationship. Right? I mean, that’s what conventional wisdom has come up with, right? And an opinion thousands of years in the making has to have the truth behind it. We all know that.

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Wrong. So wrong. I’m ready to jump through the screen and throttle whoever came up with this brilliant idea. This is one of the greatest fallacies in all of life.

Orgasms: Men vs. Women

Men have one basic kind of orgasm. One.

It can vary in intensity, sure, and sometimes it’ll even be stimulated by something other than direct contact, but it’s really just variations on a theme. That’s just how we’re built.

For a woman, the closest thing to our one orgasm is a clitoral one. But here’s the thing: women have two or more kinds, arguably three. In addition to the clitoral, they also have the G-spot, the V-spot (deep in the vagina) and the vaginal, if you argue that isn’t related.

All those orgasms produce different feelings – feelings that men can imagine, but we can never truly know. And if a woman winds up having two or more kinds of orgasms simultaneously, watch out. During the height of perfect intimacy we can get a vicarious taste of this (practice the art of tantric sex for this) – but 999 out of 1000 male lives will never come close to approaching the levels of feeling that women can get out of sex. We’re just not built that way.

Almost makes you jealous, doesn’t it? Don’t worry, quite a few women never really explore this, and if you can learn how to help a woman along, you’ll never be alone again. But that’s a topic for another article.

Wait a sec, you think, this is supposed isn’t this supposed to be an article about relationships? Why does it only seem to be about sex?

Ah my brothers, this has EVERYTHING to do with relationships. I just wanted to point out, first of all, that men do not have to want sex more than women. They usually don’t. Women are simply more subtle, and also more finicky (blame evolution).

Arousal: Men vs. Woman

A woman can’t be turned on just like that. I show you a naked picture of angelina jolie, within seconds you could be pounding nails with your tool. Show a woman a naked brad pitt, and you aren’t likely to get the same reaction.

While men tend to be visual, women tend to be cognitive. She needs her mind turned on before she gets in the mood.
Trust me, she wants to be in the mood, almost certainly more than you. But just because you get hard at the sight of her nightie, that doesn’t mean she’s ready.

And here’s the problem. Men get aroused so much faster than women that oftentimes they move too quickly. The woman wants sex, but not yet, and the guy is already moving fast into foreplay or, worse penetration.

For the woman, that’s just no fun. That’s not the lovemaking she wants. If you move too quick she may join in for you, but not for her. And this starts to become a pattern. Pretty soon she’s looking at sex as a chore, a way to keep you happy, but all the while she’s not being made happy.

This is when those pesky headaches start to appear.

This is when the man starts getting grabby, pawing, begging, putting himself in the position of weakness. Sex becomes less frequent, and more of a bothersome task for her. This leads to the man begging all the more, leading to the woman wanting it less and less, until it basically disappears.

The man becomes distraught, more pathetic in his attempts, and suddenly your abstinent. Or dumped. Or – worst? – cheated on. So how do you keep from letting this happen? It’s simple. Maybe hard in practice, but simple in theory.

Attack The Brain Not The Body

Don’t paw, don’t coyly place her hand on your crotch, don’t plead for a little sweetness. Never ever beg. Even if you get it that way – less and less as time goes by – the sex won’t be the kind of passionate embrace it should be.

You’ve got to learn to lean back, especially when you’ve been in a relationship for awhile. You need to turn her on mentally, and let her show you when she’s ready.

Don’t worry about her knowing about you. We have a handy flag raised whenever we’re in the mood. A woman, though, needs to be turned on more patiently, much more slowly. When she’s ready to move up a level, she’ll certainly let you know, most likely in a physical way.

If you can give her a little then draw back – tease her a bit – then you’ll really start to see something. You want her pawing you. She should be begging you for sex – in a playful way, of course, but nonetheless, you should be the one holding out longer. This will help ensure that she really is in the mood by the time you get down to it – which in turn leads to amazing sex.

Retain the power and the control in the bedroom. Feel free to play around with this. Some of the most explosive sex i’ve ever had was when i’d built a woman up to great heights, and then pushed her away. A woman can get nearly violent in her passion after something like that, if she’s been built up correctly.

This sort of sexual tension works almost all the time. Of course sometimes, for whatever reason, it won’t. The key then is:

Suck It Up

Go a night without. Don’t pout. Don’t ever beg. Don’t even cajole. You might get something that moment, but you’re damaging your sex life in the long run. You are losing your attractiveness.

Remember, she’s the one who is going to be experiencing depths of feeling outside the ordinary experience of men the world over. If she knows that you can provide those feelings and you don’t do anything to screw up your sexual appeal, she will come to you.

You know, people do get real headaches sometimes. A lot of bouncing isn’t pleasant. Don’t plant unpleasant experiences in her head when she thinks of you and sex. You want them all to be great.

Now no one can be on all the time, but even if every single experience isn’t fantastic, most of them should be, and there should be no negative ones.And if she is, let her show you. Your job is to get her in the mood. After that, making love to her is something you choose to do for her.

So think about your life and think about the times you have been trying to get laid – TRYING to get laid. Listen to the way you are wording it. “I am TRYING to get laid tonight.” If you want to get laid, you need to be cool about it. If you are feeling so horny that the very sight of her cleavage makes you want to rip off her clothes, then snap a load.

Jerk off and release the testosterone before you go out on a date or invite her to your place. Do not bring all the sexual energy into the game. The cooler you are, the more suave you are and the more turned on she is going to be by you. By doing this, you start building some incredible chemistry and more often than not, the girl herself will initiate the sex.

PDA: How Much is Too Much?

Many a times, you and your loved one would be in a public place

just being yourselves and for no probable reason you keep getting glances from every passerby. The reason for those queer glances is most probably your public display of affection or PDA for your partner. Now, there are no set norms which apply to PDA but there are certain guidelines you should adhere to, depending on the place you are in. Below are some pointers that would help you keep within the acceptable social limits of PDA.

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1. Mind Your Surroundings

The famous quote from ‘Batman Begins’ surprisingly also holds good for PDA. At busy public spaces like metro stations, restaurants and malls, it is best to keep your display of affection limited. However, it is best to steer clear of any PDA at workplaces and religious places.

2. Draw the Line

Holding hands, light cuddling and hugs pass off as acceptable public displays of affection, but make sure you are not too obtrusive while doing these things. However, long kisses, smooches, groping, and fondling are areas regarded as strictly unacceptable. Getting too intimate may not only invite frowns, but it can also make your partner uncomfortable.

3. Judge the Situation

Strolling down the park holding hands with your partner is something perfectly acceptable and rather a pleasing sight. However, doing the same on a crowded street may seem a bit distasteful. It is best to analyse the situation and try to think from the perspective of a third person.

4. Consult your Partner

It is possible that your partner may feel uncomfortable with things that don’t even qualify for PDA. Making an assumption about the comfort level of your partner is not the best of ways. It is always preferable to initiate a discussion with your partner to be clear about the situations or actions that might make her uncomfortable.

5. Alcohol

Under the influence of alcohol, it is convenient for things to spiral out of control. Alcohol lowers your inhibitions and instils a complete disregard for your surroundings. It is best not to engage in any PDA while you are drunk as things are bound to get loose and cause embarrassment to you.

Public displays of affection are not necessarily synonymous with vulgar or inappropriate. They may even help to further strengthen a relationship. PDAs can also be regarded as a mutual gesture for showing conformity of love for each other. The main thing here is to take into account that you are not making those gestures at the expense of others. If your actions make the people around you uncomfortable, it is best not to indulge in such actions on the basic principles of civility. And if you really just cannot help showing your love for your partner then you should indeed ‘get a room’.

How intimacy changes for men over 50

Experts say that once men cross 50, they become more attached to their partners after sex.

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When it comes to sex for men over 50, all interested parties seem to focus on erections or more specifically, the increased difficulty to get and/or maintain an erection that goes with age.

But sex for men over 50 changes in other ways besides a higher likelihood of dealing with erectile dysfunction, according to certified sex and relationship expert Joe Kort.

“Men have their own midlife crisis. Their bodies, their hair, their erections… their masculinity is starting to change. It’s really about their virility as a man,” Kort said.

“Some of it is that they want to feel more like a man. They have to wrestle with their own masculinity,” he said.

Kort spoke with Huffington Post about three ways sex changes for men over 50.

Men feel closer to their sexual partners. The common stereotype of men being distant after having sex is based on biology, Kort said.

While men and women have the same levels of oxytocin, the so-called “love hormone” that is responsible for bonding to partners and children, men have more testosterone, which is a hormonal distancer, he explained.

“Men’s testosterone starts dropping in the 40s and really starts lowering in their 50s,” he said.

But because their oxytocin levels remain the same, men over 50 find themselves attaching more to their partners after sex, a complete 180 from how men typically feel after intercourse, he said.

“They’re shocked themselves at how much they can attach,” Korte said.

Men become more open to expressing their sexuality in different ways during this age.

Women tend to be more open about their sexual fantasies, going beyond the mechanics of sex to explore different scenarios and ways to express intimacy, Kort said. But that changes for men over 50.

“They have fluidity with what they want sexually, because their erections can’t work,” meaning they have to find new ways to be sexual, he said.

Men over 50 become more vocal about their sexual fantasies, and begin to broaden their ideas of what turns them on, considering “even fantasies they wouldn’t have imagined before.”

Men become driven by fear. Call it little red Corvette syndrome-but when men hit 50, that desire for a new, younger model becomes overwhelming, Kort said.

“There is research that supports you’re looking for someone who can bear your children,” he said. “So there is some biology behind it. Women have it too, but it’s not as prominent.

“They really start wanting the ideal that they always wanted.

“It’s not an issue of right or wrong, they’re just panicked. Internally, they get scared and they act on it because their time is running out. [They think], ‘I’m never going to attract a woman like this again, and I want it’,” he added.