Did you know that most men approach the process of trying to get dates in a way that virtually GUARANTEES that they will fail? Well I need to ask you something really quickly…
Have you noticed that women seem to have an unerring ability to create an unbreakable “barrier” that they can automatically put up when they’re talking to you? It’s quite like having a sixth sense that alerts them about a guy waiting to ask them out or worse… propose to them. And it turns on an invisible force-field of doom.
Women, it’s said, make up their mind about a guy within the first 15 seconds of meeting him. So it doesn’t leave you with a lot of time to make a good impression on your potential sweetheart. But a very conscious attempt may jeopardise your chances as well, because women have a powerful dude-dar. Even before you invade her personal space, you need to make an impression from a distance, so by the time you actually get talking to her she is well aware of your presence and is actually anticipating the pleasant clash. Here are some steps you can take to improve your chances:
Be the man
This can also be described as the bad-boy appeal. The element of danger is best if it is an irresistible combination of mystery and unpredictability. If you can create this appeal then you can create and break all dating rules and norms at will. It’s a feeling similar to what Neo (the Matrix dude) got when he realised he actually was the ‘one’. You become the master of the situation. The psychological boost that you get from this is incredible. You become someone who doesn’t take crap from anyone. Others have to rise to your standards and not the other way round.
If you have ‘em, flaunt ‘em
If you have those enviable peaks, a good chest or a cute ass, then show them. You don’t need to work out six days a week and build six packs to get girls (though it does help) – But stay in shape with some regular jogging and cardio.
Jazz up your looks
If you think spending those additional few minutes in front the mirror will do wonders to your looks, then don’t grudge yourself a regular facial or an exfoliation regime. Just avoid looking too prim and manicured or you will look like a made-up doll. So to get that manly look, avoid shaving for two or three days to get that designer stubble, that women love. Keep you hair and nails trim and your hands moisturised.
Be funny – Not corny
Women just love an excellent sense of humour. Be quick and witty. Just try and be a little subtle with your one-liners and avoid “low-brow” topics. You can also tease her about things in a way that would get her interested.
However, you should also keep in mind that the girl you are trying to impress might not be the one for you. In other words if a girl is not genuinely interested, there is nothing you can do about it. So don’t get hung up getting that one girl. She is not the only girl left on this planet. Stay cool and when you feel confident and in control, chances are you will be picked up by someone even better than her.