Remember how you used to describe boys when you were only ten years old? – “Boys and their dirty old habits-Yuck!!!”
More so, your disgust for them would poison your mind about marriage and you would never ever imagine of falling in love with any of them. Puberty days however, change this view and in waltzes into your life a man! Before you know it, you are back to square one with your girl friends and telling them, “Boys and their dirty old habits- Yuck!!!” Only this time, you are saying it with a laugh.
This is because experience teaches women something valuable: when you cannot change something, you accept it. Since men are too stubborn to grow up, women have to make do with that fact. From picking their nose in public to watching sports for an incredible number of hours, boys have done it all. But which of their dirty habits pisses women off completely? It is their ‘un-shut’ trap that babbles out all the hidden secrets that you would have wished had stayed secret till you reached your grave. Mortification, horror and embarrassment burns into your soul every time your man lets loose a cannon about how you had let one rip when you had laughed so hard or how you had tripped on your heels and fell face down on the dancing floor.
New York based couples therapist Rachel Sussman says, “Most men don’t understand proper relationship etiquette and don’t think before talking about things you thought were just between the two of you. It doesn’t occur to them that it might be personal.” How could they, being such no-brainers?
Well, guys do defend their habit of verbal wanton with one simple logic: they never mean to do it. Well, whether they want to do it or not is another puzzling issue. But we are here to see why they do it. Let’s take a peek:
“Make –up “stories:
Oh dear, this is an absolute rage with guys at the party table! Maybe because he angry enough to get his revenge after you took hours to dress up, or maybe because his skull head is an inch too thick for a big brain, but the minute you step into his friends circle, you would have him whining away about how you women take days to figure out which clothes to wear for the evening. Terri Orbuch, PhD, author of 5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage From Good to Great, however has a different story to tell. She states that men yap about their girlfriend’s dressing habits because they want to let their guys know that their girls take so much pain to look good for them.
Uh…..well, if that were the case, why do they have to rub it in till the entire crowd hollers instead of having appreciating glints in their eyes, I ask?
Stories of Complaints:
Before a second passes after you two have had a fight, the men would rub their shoulders together and talk about how mean you are to them. But halt ladies, when it comes to complaining about partners, we are worse off than the men!! We sure spend hours talking about each of their bad habits which drive us up the wall. That only lets off our steam, we justify. So, why can’t the guys try it too? It will only get the rage out of the way and help us all to review our mistakes. This is more therapeutic than back lashing.
Remember how John Mayer had openly confessed that his ex-beauty, Jessica Simpson was like “sexual napalm”? Well, I guess that only made Jessica more proud, but it certainly did put her daddy ol’s back up! Guys love to boast of their sexual prowess, and when it comes to performance in bed, they all are ready to share their results!!! But that is how they have always shared their news with each other. Women are the only ones who are more hush-hush when it comes to sex. Or at least, most are- nowadays women at the gossip table discussing the ‘biggest’ they had ever done is not really an uncommon sight.
If you thought that your embarrassing memories are safe with your man, you would be proved wrong when you see his guys laughing their heads off at your expense. Guys will never let one opportunity slip to have fun. From poking fun at themselves to hooting about their women’s bizarre cases, they will certainly not stop at anything.
Now this one is a toughie to handle. Your eyes might widen with surprise when you hear a friend of your man talking about your income figure, down to the last decimal digits. But it is no surprise that guys will not hide from his pals that he is the one making more money in the household. That only ratifies his importance, and his stronger ability to make more.
So here we have a few facts that men just can’t keep to themselves. How do you change his habit? Well, you can’t, you don’t. But all that you could do is give him a cold shoulder when he tries to cuddle for some necking time. it wouldn’t have a lasting effect of course, but at least it will give you some pleasure for getting your own back.