Perspective… a group of three girls at a popular nightclub. The place is raucous and loud, and the girls are completely absorbed in their own group.
They have drinks, dance some, and move in tandem. They are indivisible, going to the ladies room together, going to the dance-floor together, even approaching the bar at the same general time.
Then – a flashing smile of as a confident, dark-haired man gaits in. His dress of jeans and a polo shirt doesn’t set him apart, and his hair is nothing special. But as he approaches, he laughs and gives one of the three girls a light, playful pseudo-shove. He engages the whole group, and they swarm on him. Two of the three girls are really quite stunning to look at… the third, not as much.
And that third girl wants to frown and interfere, but our likable man keeps engaging her, gives her a hug, takes her by the hand and salsa-spins her once.
And back to engaging the whole group, laughing, smiling, and joking. He directs the group to a mish-mash of barstools that have opened up around a high table, and the laughing and joking continues. The man ruffles the hair of the second prettiest girl, tickles the prettiest, winks at the… less pretty girl. The energy is fantastic.
Abruptly, he turns to girls two and three and says something, then takes the prettiest girl by the hand and leads her up a set of stairs. He moves to a set of couches in a quieter area of the bar and squeezes between two groups into enough space for one and a half people. Then he motions for the girl to sit next to him. She does, and of course they are sitting close together, and within minutes they’re kissing.
Welcome to the life of The Player – Find out how he does it:
Your touch is single biggest weapons in your arsenal. To get physical with a woman, she has to be comfortable and enjoy your hands on her. You need to know how to touch and escalate confidently and coolly so she enjoys the process and wants more.
How to touch is a mystery for most men – today, we remedy that. Learn the three best kinds of kinesthetic techniques to engage in, and how to move forwards from light, friendly, casual touches into kissing into more.
The Power of Kinesthetics
There’s a theory that all people express themselves and learn best through one of three ways: through audio, visual, or kinesthetic.
That means they learn and express themselves best through hearing and speaking, seeing and imagery, or touch and feeling. Touch is very important for meeting and getting women who express themselves kinesthetically into your life. These women are often the most empathetic, nurturing, and physically expressive, and fantastic women.
Touching also helps you get all kinds of women for obvious reasons, and having the touch of a gentle master will help you stimulate the mind of all women you meet.
How to Start Touching
Kino is short for “Kinesthetic“, and it’s something that every man should learn how to do well.
There’s three really good kinds of kino:
- Playful Kino:This is touching that is light and fun, that makes everyone involved enjoy themselves more.
- Protective Kino:Touching her in a way that makes her feel protected and safe.
- Incidental: Kino that’s “just happening” because you two are very comfortable with each other.
Introducing Playful Kino
Playful Kino is a spice like a high quality pepper. In small quantities, it can really make a meal, adding a sense of refinement, luxury, complexity, and excellence to it. A little bit too much pepper starts to drown out the meal and becomes a bit distasteful… dousing something in pepper makes it inedible.
So you sprinkle playful kino into your interaction. A little playful kino soon after opening sets you apart from other men who are afraid to touch, and then you can add in a little every now and then to inject some energy into the interaction.
Common types of Playful Kino:
- Tickling her
- Ruffling her hair
- Spanking her
- Hip-bumping her
- Hot hands
- A light (very light!) shove
- Kid-like games like thumb wars
- Salsa spins
- More complicated spins
- Picking her up and throwing her over your shoulder
- A light (very light!) punch in the arm or leg
Playful Kino is light and fun. Sprinkle some into the interaction and watch what your interactions get more charged up.
Introducing Protective Kino
Knight in Shining Armor time. Protective Kino makes her feel protected and safe, and is great for attraction. After just a few moments and a bit of connection, protective kino becomes appropriate and powerful.
One of the best kinds of touching anywhere is where protective kino was derived from. Placing your hand on her lower back as you move through a crowded bar or cross a street is extremely attractive and makes you seem very, very powerful and masculine.
As you move through the bar or across the street, gently but firmly place your hand on her lower back, “escorting” her onwards. It will make her feel warm and safe, and like you’re an absolute stud.
Other kinds of protective kino include going arm-in-arm like you’re promenading, taking her hand as you move through a venue, holding her closely to you as you’re sitting, or putting your arm out in front of her to stop her from moving forwards as you get to a street crossing. Engaging in protective kino signifies that you protect your own, that you’re a confident masculine man, and is a huge boon for attraction.
Your Gateway to Success: Incidental Kino
The best for last, incidental kino is the most subtle of the three kinds. It’s where you and the girl are touching but neither of you are consciously trying to do so. It happens naturally with couples who are comfortable with each other all the time. You’re going to replicate that by generating incidental kino.
You want to build incidental kino throughout the interaction by closing space. If your and her touching breaks off, do not rush to reengage it. You should break off and resume incidental kino yourself. Again, you’re not trying to manufacture it. It’s “just happening”, because you two are so comfortable with each other.
Common forms of Incidental Kino:
- Knees interlocked sitting on barstools
- Brushing shoulders up against each other as you walk down the street
- Sharing an umbrella
- Speaking into her ear if it’s loud and all the touching associated with that
- Sitting next to each other on a couch
- Leaning over her to converse with her friend or your friend
- Taking something from her or handing something to her
- …and so on.
Always Incidental Kino Before Kissing
It’s this simple not comfortable with that light, nonchalant form of touching, she’s not ready to be kissed. And for a lot of cases where she might kiss you, incidental kino is more likely to make it happen.
Western cinema has filled guys’ heads with a lot of nonsense. You absolutely do not want to “Cross the Sahara” to kiss her. That’s where you look into her eyes from five feet away, and slowly lean in to kiss her. In real life, this does not work.
The only time it will work is if she’s given conscious thought to whether she wants to kiss you or not and has decided yes, then decides it’s the exact right moment, and then doesn’t get nervous (which many women do with a guy they like) when you go to kiss her in slow motion. So, do not try to “Cross the Sahara” to kiss her.
Instead, you should be so close to her that you can simply turn her chin with your finger and move your lips a few inches to meet hers. You two should be touching closely, incidentally, before going to kiss.
Some Rules For Touching
All Kino should seem either Spontaneous or Subconscious. That means it should never seem premeditated, planned, or forced. Some helpful tips for you.
Playful kino is always spontaneous, and being done lightly in the spirit of the moment. Sprinkle playful kino in, it’s best used as a spice in small doses.
Do Protective kino like you make it. No waffling on whether you’re going to put your arm around her. Playful kino can either be spontaneous or subconscious, but make sure you’re doing it in a masculine, protective way.
Incidental kino is supposedly not being consciously generated (even though both you and the woman are aware of it). It’s “just happening” because you two are comfortable with each other. As such, it’s always subconscious on your part – if she breaks it off, don’t immediately scoot back in to her. Let it rest and restart it in a moment. Make sure you break off incidental kino from time to time as well, then restart it.
Lastly, never look where you touch. It “asks for permission” so to speak. Just go for it, if your hand is in the wrong place she’ll let you know.
Touching is absolutely fantastic for your game.
Employing solid touching and kinesthetics will capture her mind and body. It’s especially powerful and necessary for some of the most fun, passionate girls and works well on all girls. Remember to engage in incidental kino before you go to kiss, because it’s a win/win proposition.
Now get out there and get it goin’!