A man might think that he’s being quite the gentleman when he pops that question.
His nose is not a centimeter apart from hers, she’s been staring googly-eyed at his face, there’s a tangible magnetism in the space between them. Then wham! The question that instantly kills the mood: “Can I kiss you?”
No, if I didn’t want to be kissed I wouldn’t be standing with my neck craned and my eyes locked on yours. I would have gotten the heck out of there. Come on, how obvious can it be that you’re moving in for a first kiss? Do you really think I’d stay there staring at the pores on your nose if I didn’t want the kiss to happen as much as you did?
Never ask a girl whether you can kiss her.
1. Because you can’t be both polite and passionate
Passion is about letting go, and losing yourself in the moment. It’s about making her feel that you can’t stay away. Would you ask a freshly-baked brownie if you might eat it? No. The smell, and your proximity to it, and the fact that there’s nobody watching you, is too much of a temptation. You take one long look at it, you glance around to ensure that you’re alone, you close your eyes, and then mmm…
2. Because confidence maketh a man
It’s the same, whether it’s a kiss or a romp between the sheets. We women want a man who is masterful and in control. We want to be thrown against the wall and our breaths kissed of us, we want to come up gasping for air every few minutes. Asking for permission is like telling the woman that you’re not comfortable being the one on top. The first kiss establishes, at the start itself, which of the two is in control. Unless you’re a toy boy and into older women, you want to be suave, confident and badass during your first kiss.
3. Because asking will ALWAYS spoil the moment
Asking makes you seem like a kid with a permission slip. What’s a woman supposed to respond with, “Okay, just this once”? Or “No, you’ve been a bad boy, not today”? The magnetism I was talking about, the magic of the moment, is irrevocably shattered when you pop THAT question. She’s most likely to sigh inwardly and make up an excuse about having to rush home, and I won’t blame her if she writes you off her list of eligible singles after that.
Be forewarned: taking charge of your first kiss does not in any way mean that you inflict yourself on her or manhandle her. A masterful kisser gives as much as he receives; he is gentle even while he takes control.