When you’re out and about and meeting new women, sometimes you may get responses which you didn’t want. In such cases, there is nothing to get disheartened about.
It might seem like you’ve been rejected. However, like most things in life, things are not always as they seem. Perceived rejection can quickly be given a different meaning. By doing this you stay motivated and optimistic. Below are tips on how you can look at such incidences from a different perspective.
It’s not about you
Let’s say you’re in a bar and you approach a girl and you get a cold reaction from her. For instance, she might say to you that she doesn’t want to talk with you, or that she has a boyfriend. She may look away from you.
You then walk away, shoulders sunken, feeling like you’ve just been turned away. However, it can never be real rejection. To think so is illogical, Think about it. A woman who doesn’t even know you can never truly reject you. If a woman refused to entertain you, it usually has to do with something that she maybe dealing with at that time. She might have had guys hitting on her all night long and was totally fed up with it all. On the other hand, perhaps she was looking for an ego boost to see how many guys she could attract and really wasn’t looking to meet anyone.
In order to be really rejected, you would have to be in a long term relationship where you and your girlfriend were together for a considerable amount time and it all ended badly. For example, you could have been getting distant and your long term girlfriend may tell you she can’t stand being with you any longer, for whatever reason.This might be considered to be rejection, but certainly not with a woman you don’t even know.
It’s her loss
Remember you’re great guy. You have a lot to offer to any woman. And as a guy you did what you were supposed to do and made the first move with a woman you wanted to get to know. The girl you just approached has missed out on an opportunity to get to know you.
It’s a huge learning experience
Becoming good with interacting with women is an art. If a girl tells you she’s not interested, then you can do a quick review of what you did when you approached. For instance, you can consider what your body language was like when you approached. You can review how you walked up and felt at the time of approaching her.
You can also learn from the reaction you got from the woman you approached. What was her initial reaction like? What other factors were in play, which could have impacted her – such as her friends around her or loud music playing.
By considering such things, you’re using the interaction you had as feedback and an opportunity to learn and try something else, so that you improve your approach for the next time you walk up to a woman you like.
It’s another step closer to getting the girl you want
If a girl says no to your advances, then you’re really one step closer to getting the woman you want. Although there are a number of things you can do to increase the odds in your favour, there is a certain ‘numbers game’ element when it comes to women and it is useful to remember this when interacting with them.
Success with any aspect of life including getting girlfriends requires persistence. We all know that persistence always pays off in the end.
Reject the idea that you’ve been rejected
Ultimately the feeling of rejection is something you’ve allowed yourself to experience.
Although it seems like the girl who turned you away has caused you to feel rejected, you still have a choice on how to respond when you get a reaction that you didn’t want.
Instead,consider for a moment, rejecting the idea that you were rejected by a woman. Now, how is that for a powerful shift in perception!?