Break-ups are tough to deal with as there is a strong unwillingness to come out of the emotional cloud they create. But the emotional loss that lingers on for quite some time has to be fought against for your life to come back to terms. Whether you are the dumper or the dumpee, the pain is equally killing. Read on to log off from previous trauma and restart your life afresh:
The Pre-Break up Time
This one is hard to negotiate. You can see it—if not crystal clear—that things are going sour between your girl and you. Sometimes, the tension reaches fever pitch and you just want to get out of it all. But frustrated as you might be, you have to invest a lot of consideration in your decision to break up. Begin with talking to her and sorting out your problems as you won’t want to break up for a reason which could have been avoided.
When It Happens
All the patience and wisdom you have gained over the years have to be applied now. Don’t just dump her, if you are tempted to do that. She has been your partner for the good times you had together, so she deserves much more than that. Take some time out and spend time talking to her about the issue at hand. Women like to resolve issues by talking their hearts out. So give her (and yourself) that last chance. And if you at all have to, then break up like a man.
How to Deal With It
Remain Stable Emotionally: The toughest part of all is dealing with the break-up. Now whether you parted mutually or there was some ‘ditching’ involved, there is no denying the fact that you are feeling miserable. Don’t let this misery make you take boneheaded decisions. Don’t go about causing harm to yourself or wishing to end your miserable life. Instead, share your woes with your friends and family, as their support can help you draw you out of that situation.
Don’t Stalk Her: Don’t start haunting her with your texts and calls at odd hours. Worse still, don’t hound her Facebook page and keep checking out her photos. Doing this will only cause you more trauma. Chasing her friends won’t take you anywhere either, as her friends are least likely to help or believe you.
Don’t Try To Evoke Sympathy: Sporting a sad face round the clock or flooding your Facebook and Twitter accounts with philosophically depressing statuses will only irritate your followers. Spare them the misery.
Stay Busy: This is the best, if not easiest, way to deal with your break-up woes. Try to be involved in something or the other—a project at work or some personal engagement—that will take your mind off the events that unfolded recently.
If you believe in love, you must also believe in the adage “Whatever happens, happens for a reason”. So stay positive and make everything work your way. Coming out of a relationship you cherished isn’t easy, but it is up to you how you deal with it. Love will come through at some point!