1. Small, Medium, or Large
You’re signing the two of you up for a race, and the free T-shirt section needs her size. If you order a small and it’s too small, she’ll feel—well, large—but if she thinks you think she’s a medium (when she’s clearly a small), you’re in the doghouse. Just ask.
2. Where She’s From
Whether she’s a born-and-bred Bostonian, a New Yorker at heart, or a small-town Midwesterner, her hometown matters. It probably says a lot about how she grew up—and how she’ll continue to grow.
3. Where She Went to School
Same reasoning: It’s important to her. Plus, it was four really fun years of her life that you may or may not have been present for. Mix up the University of Kansas with Kansas State, and you’ll never hear the end of it.
4. The Names of Her Parents, Siblings, and Best Friends
She talks about them enough, so you should be able to remember their names. Bonus points for coworkers and bosses.
5. How to Cheer Her Up
Knowing the quick fix for a bad day is good for both of you. If a pack of Oreos,Homeland on DVD, or takeout from her favorite Chinese place can brighten her up, you’ll see the rewards, too. The little things show you notice—and care.
6. The Signs of a Bad Mood
Being able to pinpoint bad mood warning signs she doesn’t even notice—ie: her voice when she’s hungry, or a less than enthusiastic response to a text—relay that you’re learning her . . . better than she may even know. Plus, you’ll be better equipped to handle what could be coming your way.
7. Her Middle Name
If her doctor, employer, and credit card company know it, so should you.
8. Her Favorite Music
And make it an option on long car rides.
9. What She Doesn’t Eat
Take her to a steakhouse when she’s told you twice that red meat’s not her thing, and you’ve signed yourself up for an awkward date and a “do you evenlisten to me?” conversation.
10. Her Favorite Flower
You’ll thank us later.