Put the “play” back in your foreplay with these great little sex games
You need: A clock or an egg timer.How to play: Pick a time interval — 20 minutes, let’s say. (If you’re like us, even 10 minutes will be a change from the norm.) Whatever interval you choose, absolutely do not allow penetration until that much time has elapsed.
Why: Most busy couples have foreplay down to a science — and a bare minimum as well. “Time Bomb” refocuses you on the pregame show, the part that used to be so much fun before you lived together. You’ll be surprised by how much slowing down changes things. You get really creative. You get really hot.
BLIND MAN IN THE BUFF
You need: A scarf, a man’s necktie or a blindfold.
How to play: Blindfold him. Lead him to the bed or other locale. Then proceed to ravish him — slowly, recklessly, teasingly, however you feel like doing it. You call the shots. Let his arousal be your guide.
Why: Not being able to see during sex has two major effects — it dramatically increases both sensitivity and psychological vulnerability. Either one is a powerful aphrodisiac. Together they can create a love explosion.
Variation: He blindfolds you.
YOU ARE MY PRISONER
You need: Four men’s neckties or more elaborate restraints available from a sex-toy store or from an Internet site (try www.goodvibes.com); and a bed, preferably with bedposts.
How to play: He ties your wrists and ankles to the bedposts and has his way with you.
Why: I have to admit, this is my favorite sex game — and I never even tried it until I was in my late 30s. I find it incredibly erotic to be completely powerless, to be the absolute center of his attention and to have no responsibility for or power over what happens. I find it erotic just to think about. If you’ve never tried it, please do.
Variation: If you don’t have bedposts, you may be able to tie your wrists to some part of your headboard or tie them together over your head or behind your back. You can get extra-long ties and be tied to the legs of the bed. This can be combined with blindfolding, but I actually prefer to see.